You must’ve read the title of the blog and thought to yourself, “How to lose?” or if not that, “Why would I want to lose?” We, as people, be so accustomed to either winning in certain aspects of our life that we do not value losing more often than not. Winning does bring reward to further cement our place among the people and in history. History more often than not remembers both, winners and losers, but the winners forget that they were once the loser.
For starters, look at everything that Michael Jordan has accomplished in his illustrious career. A decorated hall of famer, six time NBA champion, and undisputed G.O.A.T of all time. Throughout his illustrious career he lost more in the beginning before things turned around for him and dedicated himself to never losing again when it mattered most. He once said, “I never lost a game. I only ran out of time.” Now, I’m paraphrasing that quote from him but a quote like that could be seen as an ego big enough needed to be deflated, but it isn’t because he put the time, effort, practiced enough, and dedicated himself to the craft of basketball to be the best. As long as you can back it up in whatever it is that you are good at it’s never bragging.
Another example, more on the side of fiction, let’s look at Batman. I, for one, personally enjoy the stories written for Batman more so than not. The casual audience only sees him for the gadgets, the costume, his heroics, and the fact that he is 100% pure badass in whatever medium he is portrayed. To the hardcore audience, like myself, knows that there more to the character that meets the eye, or in this case more to the man behind the costume. Batman has witnessed loss (death of his parents), been traumatized through loss (Jason Todd the 2nd Robin), developed his persona and psyche from failed experiences (war on crime, being “normal”, and failed marriage to Catwoman), and has been shrouded through loss in his entire history. In the end, his losses amounted to him never giving up but finding ways to succeed, and learning from them. Determined and being better the next time around gave him the will to win against evil because he learned from loss.
Personally I, myself, have learned from losses and didn’t understand the concept of losing leading to success or winning. At a point in my life, late teens early twenties, I felt a seal of invincibility that could never be shattered. Me, ever fathoming or conceiving the thought of me being beat in life had never crossed my mind. Whether I had dropped out of college, lost out on potential love in my life, messed up bigger opportunities to further myself, or even cause self-inflicted trouble those experiences came with loss but lead me to where I am today. After some time I had turnaround in my life that is leading me to be a little successful, not where I want to be, but at least in a better position than before.
As of right now, I’m back in school full time through my job which came in clutch if I’m being honest about that. I’m working a job that pays $20+ hourly three days on and four days off which gives me ample opportunity and time to handle any personal projects or affairs to get in order so I can’t beat that. I’m not saying everything right now is golden but I will say that I’m doing better than I ever done in the past three years. Losing in life outright sucks but when you’re getting yourself together, and put yourself in a position to win the results are going to surprise you.
In the end, LOSING IS NOT THE END OF THE ROAD OR THE END OF THE WORLD!!! Losing is a path in life everyone takes on the road to success/winning, whether you make it easy or hard, it is inevitable to avoid no matter who you are. The people you look up to whether, real or fictional, suffered from loss but ultimately bounced back to win in the end. If I can bounce back then you definitely can bounce back too, just gonna take some time for everything to come to fruition. Never rush to get everything because you’ll be over your head doing everything at once, do everything one at a time and make sure that one task/job/affair is properly taken care of, and finally basks in the silence of victory when it’s all said and done no one needs to know everything you accomplished.
As always, you guys stay safe and do the best you can in any endeavor even when you think you aren’t good. As long as you try and give your best that’s all that should matter to you. Also, stop stressing every inconvenience because whether you here today or gone tomorrow that inconvenience doesn’t last forever. Take care and I’ll see you guys next blog.
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